How To Know Who You Really Are
Sigmund Freud said that Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not surrounded by idiots.
So often we measure our worth through the lens of others. We think about ourselves what we think other people think about us. We can’t see ourselves externally as we see others. So we judge ourselves through the lens we think others might have.
Charles Horton Cooley, an American sociologist at the start of the 20th century, said: “I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am“
Children’s perception of the world is also very interesting. They not only see the world and themselves how their parents, teachers, surroundings see it. They see the world and themselves as they interpret the perception of their surroundings.
You see the complexity of identity right?!
As I mentioned above one of the reasons we think about ourselves what others might think about us is that majority of us aren’t able to see ourselves as we see others, so we can’t really observe ourselves externally. You are inside of yourself, inside of your body you will not be able to sit yourself down and actually look at it from outside ( unless you practice astral projection).
When this is the case observation, evaluation and judgement has to be done inside out.
When we meet someone we observe their behavior, body language, words, actions, how they act, what kind of faces they make. And based on our “investigation” we then put a label on that person. If we like them they are good if we don’t then well what can we do they are bad.
To understand yourself you have to spend time with yourself, observe it, and become aware of it. You need to ask questions, meditate, do breathwork, slow down, journal, think. Do whatever allows you to meet yourself.
You have to pause, close your eyes, and look inward, When you do that you will have the knowledge of yourself. Knowing and knowledge are completely different. Knowledge of yourself is more logical, intellectual, based on proof. Knowing is what you feel when you meet your true self. You can’t always put it into words but the emotion and feeling are there.
Intellectual knowledge of ourselves can be manipulated by various things. The knowing of ourselves is pure and true.
The majority of people can’t get the feel of the world and others because they haven’t spent time feeling themselves.
Spend time investigating and researching yourself based on the evidence you find. And remember most often the truest evidence is the one that isn’t seen and obvious; our intuition and gut feeling.
Much Love <3
Ani Rich
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