What are the boundaries & borders of every identity word?

“What are the boundaries and borders of every identity word? Who gets to use it? Who doesn’t? There’s a lot of identity border policing; I think it comes from a place of stress and discomfort because we’re trying to find comfort where it doesn’t exist, sometimes at the expense of one another.”

Robyn Ochs, ‘Googling the definition of pansexual?’ Ally Head, Marie Claire, Jan 20 2021.