When You Want to Want to Have Sex

This week I got an email from an About.com reader who is in a loving relationship, with a man they adore, but who isn't having the kind of sex they want, isn't feeling the desire they crave, and doesn't see how anything could change.

I've known many people who were in perfectly terrible relationships - no communication, completely different values, different interests and aspirations - who nonetheless had great sex, regularly. And of course I've also spoken to many others who were in...