TRANSITIONS…
TRANSITIONS…
We all go through them. Some are major, some are slight. Every day that we awaken to our own breathing is a transition to a new day. Sometimes we want to shut our eyes and leave the world behind.
Think of a day when you awakened, knowing that this was the day you would bury your mother or father; or maybe your boyfriend or husband, girlfriend, wife–even your child. How did you get through that day? How did you put two feet on the floor and move into the burdens, the sorrows of that day?
Transitions can also be filled with joy–a new home, new job, vacation, graduation–or you are awake because, yes, you’re having a contraction, your water broke, your child will be born today.
PSYCHOLOGISTS BREAK THIS DOWN INTO KINDS OF TRANSITIONS:
Elected–you chose a new job; surprise–you lost your job; life on hold–you have cancer; sleeper–your husband is having an affair; and double whammies–your lost your job and your husband is having an affair.
AN ORDINARY DAY IS DESTROYED
But truly, when you think about an ordinary day in your life, it can be filled with transitions that you are forced to make: as simple as canceling a plan, to losing your best friend in a car accident.
We humans MUST BE STRONG, accept the possibility of transition and change. A phone call that your best friend was killed in a car accident will require you to use any strengths you might have to get through this. Will you rise to the occasion? Call the closet relative and offer your love, your help? Will you drive, get a plane or if it’s now and things are restricted, can you find the words to comfort all who have lost this person? STRENGTH, in such a situation WE NEED STRENGTH. And wisdom and faith.
BOTTOM LINES
When a person decides to put themselves in a position where the result of something could be positive or negative, they need to be adult, be able to release some control, and realize from the beginning that things could go either way. Psychologists even list the characteristics of managing transitions in life:
Your ability to plan; Timing; Having agency during the transition; Previous experience; and realizing that transition is part of life.
DONALD TRUMP LOST THIS ELECTION TO JOE BIDEN. Psychologists tell us that right now he is feeling disoriented, and disengaged. Oh you bet! So here are a few tips for Donald that might help him get through this:
Recognize why you are uncomfortable; Explore the aspects of the change; Talk to someone, get your feelings out; Use this transition as the impetus to a new kind of learning.
MY POINT OF VIEW
What I really want to say in this post, is that given the opportunity to show strength, provide good example to American citizens, it’s all about stamping his feet, calling out the referee and insisting that the game was called unfairly. I abhor such behavior. I would not want to see that in a seven-year-old much less POTUS.
People are dying every day; families are struggling with death, loss of income, their children not in school, mothers trying to balance work and childcare. GET A GRIP, DONALD, act like a man for once. You lost. Now help your country, that you said you loved, transition. You were elected to do a job that has boundaries and rules. OBEY THEM, for the sake of God and Country.
And remember: HOW A MAN WINS, SAYS A LOT ABOUT HIS CHARACTER. HOW HE LOSES, SAYS EVEN MORE.
THANKS TO CHARLES SCHULZ AND LUCY
