Meet Joe Backup

The guy I'm seeing is super attentive and affectionate when we're together, but then he always falls off the grid. He'll wait weeks before texting me to make plans again, and sometimes I have to initiate. What's his deal, and how do I proceed? It's a new relationship, so I'd feel too needy to tell him I want more attention.

--Yearning

We have a term for a pleasant, attentive man who drops by from time to time and then isn't seen for weeks, and no, it is not "boyfriend" but "UPS man."

Some wi...