Post # 40
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The idea of writing an article around Women’s Day struck me yesterday. But I dropped the idea. Reason was that I could only think of all the womanly stuff that has become cliché by now. Talk about her strength (the most appreciated trait so these days), her beauty (which is just skin-deep for many even today), her modesty (well, sometimes she is bound to have that), anek ruup (different forms like mother, daughter, sister or durga, laxmi, saraswati) etc etc. everything has been talked of. So I had almost dropped the idea. Until a loved one said to me that she would be waiting for my Women’s Day special blog post. I immediately started thinking of a topic which has been least emphasized so far. So I thought of this.
Acceptance.
Lately, we have seen some people raising voice against judging women uselessly. But does ‘not judging’ someone mean ‘accepting’ her too? I think there is a thin line between the two. ‘Not judging’ nearly means ‘not bothering much’ about what she’s doing, where she’s going etc. Have we ever thought, are we also ‘accepting’ the women in our lives properly? Although this could be discussed in a broader context, at all levels, mother, daughter, sister, friend, etc. But I think there’s a special need to discuss this in the context of love and marriage. Of course, there are all kind of people everywhere. There are exceptions to every rule. And may be there do exist some people who don’t deserve to be accepted just the way they are. But then, there is a reason behind everything that happens and everyone we have in our lives. May be if we find out that, everything falls into place.
Anyway, my text is more focused on the women that are straight-away rejected for being the way they are, made fun of, or, allied but taken for granted in spite of genuine efforts. It’s true that over time women have touched success heights , have become more independent, self-sufficient etc. But then expectations from them have risen high too. Now they are expected to be all-rounders. That too, flawlessly. Those husbands who earlier used to raise questions on their household maintenance, now question their independence too. In all the chase for perfection, glamorized strength and beauty, boldness and so on, we have forgotten that everybody has flaws. We have ignored the importance of simplicity. We have left behind the beauty of soul. We are taking goodness for granted.
Yes, people with a huge heart are rare species but not extinct yet. Having such people in my own life and around, I can say so. I just wish there could be more. When I say ‘acceptance’, I don’t exactly mean don’t ask her to change but to do that in such a way that the other person doesn’t feel low at self-esteem. I mean to motivate her to do this in a patient way; to give enough time for the change. I mean to acknowledge and appreciate her everyday efforts in such a way that she feels more enthusiastic about doing more, she doesn’t feel worked-up at least emotionally. Small acts of kindness now and then will do wonders.
Today, if not anything else, let her know she’s beautiful in spite of her scars, wounds and insecurities. Celebrate true Women’s Day!
Happy Women’s Day 
