Avoid All the Drama on Facebook with These Tips

by Edie Melson @EdieMelson
This year has been a trying year for everyone on Facebook. From the political comments to bogus news traps, and even Christmas, I’m hearing reasons people are taking a break from this social network. But throwing the baby out with the bathwater may not be the best solution to this dilemma.It is possible to interact on Facebook and NOT be inundated with updates we don’t want to see.
Facebook works on their own Edgerank algorithm. This means that based on certain parameters, FB decides what you’ll see and what you want. But these parameters are influenced by our personal (or business) behavior, so we actually have a little more control than we may realize. Here are some habits you may want to develop to make your FB time a little less stressful.
How to Make Facebook Work for You
1. Be careful what you LIKE, COMMENT, and Share. As I said, our behavior weighs heavily into the algorithm. What that means is that FB is watching the things you LIKE (or dislike) Comment On and Share. For example, the more you engage on political updates, the more political updates you’ll see in your newsfeed. Refusing to engage won’t completely clear your newsfeed of a specific type of update, but it will greatly reduce the number you see.
2. Be wary of which links you click on. Don’t get caught by ads like “Celebrity X is no longer with us,” or other click bate. Even the name game links can add to number of junk updates that show up in your newsfeed.
3. Choose a list of SEE FIRST accounts that are trustworthy. Most of us remember the good ole days when we saw every update from our friends—in order—in our newsfeed. Those days are long gone, but there is new work-around that FB has made available. It’s called SEE FIRST. This works with people you are FRIENDS and with pages you LIKE.
To SEE FIRST a friend’s, go to his/her profile and click the small arrow beside FOLLOWING (under the cover image). You’ll see the option to SEE FIRST (see first image below).
This image is before you click See First


After you choose that box, it will show up as SEE FIRST instead of FOLLOWING on that person’s cover image (see second image below).
This image is after  you click SEE FIRST

You’ll also notice that there’s a message under SEE FIRST that lets you jump to a list of all your friends and you can choose which to see first from there. CAVEAT: you are only allowed to see 30 accounts first, so choose wisely.
To SEE FIRST a professional page, go to that specific page and click the small arrow next to FOLLOWING and choose SEE FIRST. After you’ve clicked that, the following button will not say SEE FIRST, like on a personal profile (see image below). CAVEAT: from what I can tell, there’s no limit to the number of pages you can choose to SEE FIRST and they don’t figure into the 30 personal profiles you SEE FIRST. This image shows what SEE FIRST looks like on a professional page
4. Be careful About the updates you share. A lot of times we can post something that seems innocent, but can draw a firestorm of irritating and downright ugly comments. For me personally, I don’t every share anything political. EVER. And I stay away from controversial posts, like gay marriage, abortion, etc. I’ve done a lot of praying about this and I’d like to share my reasoning with you.
My FB profile is set to public. This means anyone and everyone can see it. These aren’t my close personal friends who already know my heart and my intentions, these are strangers who only have my picture and some random updates with which to judge my meaning and intent.
My personal friends and I can debate and disagree privately because we already have a foundation for our relationship. We have a level of trust and even more importantly—context—that makes sharing difficult things in a loving way possible. I can share things with them that could be considered inflammatory unless we shared that context. When I share controversial things on FB—with strangers and people who don’t know me well—it’s like standing on a street corner and screaming that the only way to Heaven is through Jesus and without Him we’re all going to hell. It may be truth, but it just sounds like hate and judgement. When it comes to sharing difficult truth, I don’t hold back with the people I know personally.
Bottom LineThe way we choose to interact on FB that is very personal, and I know some of you will disagree with the approach I've chosen. I’m fine with that. We each have to do what we feel is right. But know that if you choose to engage with controversial posts, your newsfeed may light up like World War 3.
I hope this post helps you engage on FB in a way that is less stressful. These are the things that I’ve found have a huge impact on what I see in my FB newsfeed. What have you found that helps you keep the rioters at bay on social media? Be sure to share your thoughts in the comments section below.
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Edie Melson is a woman of faith with ink-stained fingers observing life through the lens of her camera. No matter whether she’s talking to writers, entrepreneurs, or readers, her first advice is always “Find your voice, live your story.” As an author, blogger, and speaker she’s encouraged and challenged audiences across the country and around the world. Her numerous books reflect her passion to help others develop the strength of their God-given gifts and apply them to their lives.Connect with her on her website, through Facebook, Twitter and on Instagram.