An Interview With Jeff

What Is Your Full Name?

My full name is Jeffrey David Johnson.

Do you have a nickname?

Everyone calls me Jeff.

Where and when were you born?

I was born in Philadelphia in 1978.

So, that would make you 42? Wow, you’re a handsome man at 42. 

Thank you [smiles].

What is your occupation?

I spent about fifteen years in the military. Also, I might be retiring due to… [pauses] Let’s just say I haven’t decided yet.

Are you doing that now?

Right now, I am on break. Not sure what I will do next. I am going through some situations right now and I’m taking a break.

Let’s switch to the topic of relationships.

Okay.

So, you know I am living to know… it’s been three years. How are you and Lailah doing? When we last left you two, you both were dancing at a friend’s wedding.

Yes, we met at a wedding and we’ve been getting to know each other since then.

God, Send Me My Husband, Too!

Three years is a long time, don’t you think? Do I hear wedding bells, then?

We’ve been dating as friends for three years and it’s been wonderful. We’ve both been kind of busy. Just living life. Healing. Getting to know each other. Lailah is a sweet woman of God. I need that in my life but as of right now we are just dating friends.

What exactly is “dating friends”?

Well…we haven’t really defined our relationship in these three years. It’s something I made up. We’ve just been seeing each other by going on dates and talking on the phone. We are taking it slow. We aren’t exclusive.

Slow is an understatement, don’t you think?

Understand this… we’ve been through a lot from previous relationships and we want to do this right. We care about each other.

Ohhh, so you’ve been hurt and you don’t want to be hurt again?

I–we just want to take our time, but I truly believe it is important to just take your time in relationships. Rushing can cause a lot of problems. We don’t want to rush this.

Sounds like you know a lot about rushing. Can you tell us more?

All I know is that rushing is not a good thing to do in relationships. So Lailah and I are taking our time. I’ll admit I’ve had some bad experiences and I may have rushed my last relationship. So, I won’t do that this time. We will take it slow. We have remained friends and now we are just getting to the exclusive stage. Although, she’s been the only woman I’ve talked to these last couple of years.

I mean is that even smart to wait so long? I mean don’t men usually know when they’ve found the one.

Umm…it just depends on the man. It doesn’t make a relationship bad because they want to wait or take a long time. Some men are cautious because of past experiences. I’ve had bad experiences. It’s not a bad thing. Not all men are there wasting ones time. Every relationship is different. I’ll say this… be led by God. God will tell you to wait or to move on.

Did God tell Lailah to wait?

Well, you will have to ask her. Waiting is not a bad thing. For us it is a good thing. We are in the process of going through a bad storm and it’s causing us to really dig deep and deal with issues most people do not deal with in the beginning stages. This storm will make or break us.

Part 2 coming soon.

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