Comparison Chopping

My boyfriend and I broke up two years ago, and I guess I'm not over him. I'm not still pining for my ex, but I find myself comparing every guy I date to him. How do I get him out of my head?

--Haunted

When you're looking for love, it's good to avoid wearing distracting jewelry, like an ex-boyfriend-shaped anvil on a chain around your neck.

But maybe you don't have the problem you think you do: not being over your ex. After all, you say you aren't pining over the guy. Consider that we don't ...