N@50: I'm a Grandma!

Actually, I'm not.  The truth is that my husband is a grandfather, which makes me the wife of a grandfather, not a grandmother.

I'll bet some of you are wondering why I make the distinction.  Well, it's because I'm too young to be a grandmother.  Not really.  I make the distinction because as someone married to a man with two adult children, a teenager, two grandchildren and an ex-wife, I'm careful to "stay in my lane."

My husband's grandchildren have a grandmother already and I have no desire to usurp that role, or dilute it by staking ownership to the title.  I'm not sure how I'd feel if the roles were reversed.  Would I want my grandchildren calling my ex-husband's wife, "Grandma?"

At some point, we're going to have to decide what name the grandchildren use for me, but we have a while for that since they're still very young.  Maybe they could call me "Angel," short for Angela.  I sorta like that.  I'm from the South so children addressing adults by their first name is a definite no-no.

What do you think?  How should my husband's grandchildren address me?  Are any of you in a similar situation?  How have you handled it?