Sascha Illyvich - Bad Boy of Romance!

Please help me welcome....Sascha IllyvichThe Bad Boy of Romance!!



      Readers, grab yourself a beverage, get comfy and let's get started. Sascha, welcome and I'm so excited that you stopped in this week to join us. I've had fun getting to know you a LOT better and glad I did. Your background is crazy with all you do! I'm not sure how you find time to write! 

Sascha: Proclaimed by the Publishing industry as the Bad Boy ofRomance, I started writing twelve years ago.  My erotic romances have beenlisted under the Night Owl Romance and Road to Romance's Recommended read list,as well nominated for a CAPA by The Romance Studio.     I host the Unnamed Romance Show on Radio Dentata andcontinue to write for Sizzler Editions and Total E-bound.  Readers can findmy work, plus free reads at http://saschaillyvichauthor.com      I edit for Sizzler Editions Intoxication Erotic Romance lineand I'm also part of the WriteSex Panel, a blog group defining erotica forwriters in any genre! Find us at http://www.writesex.net



Tonya: You're going to share with us you take on the Male POV in romance writing. Authors, get that pen and paper ready for note taking!
Sascha:  One of the biggest issues female romance writers have is writingfrom the Male POV. As authors, we mayoften ask our spouses about behavior issues.We're often left stumbling when our spouses can't give us an exactanswer, as is usually the case in dealing with the male mind.
Female author: "Honey, why do you men behave in X fashion?"
Male Spouse:  "Hell ifI know." Or a grunt or shoulder shrugfor the response.
     This doesn't help anyone at all and then when the femaleromance novelist goes to find information, she's confronted with a myriad ofblogs, studies, postings, and an overwhelming amount of news that would makeanyone scream!     Being a male romance author, I've seen some of the informationthe female gender shares about us and I must say much of it is inaccurate BUT Ihappen to be slightly biased. Most of myfriends are female; I am engrossed in this genre as a writer and hardly dealwith men outside the cigar/wine industry. In fact, I had a post on how I'm often oneof the girls because I don't behave like a typical male.     Back to the writing, when we're talking about male POV we'rereally talking about the same thing in both genders, especially when we breakdown the story's plot. Romance is basically very simple:
     Two people come together because they listen to theirhearts.  But men are taught to ignorefeelings in order to forage for survival. Women often are taught to go with their instincts, which can beemotionally based. If something feelswrong, it probably is.      The disconnect in romance creates conflict. IE, I can't be with her, I'll fall in loveand she might hurt me. Or vice versa withthe women.  But what we need to realizeis that our males, oftentimes played as jaded heroes have inner issues that wemust address and utilize to forward plot. We're taking that inner angst from men that usually comes out as vitrioland realizing that it's truly passion. There are underlying reasons for their behavior that usually stem fromthe past and create our way of being. When we identify the reasons for them, we can let our heroines see alittle more into the man and why he's who he is.  It's up to her then to help him grow, notchange. 
     Routinely, I teach courses on Male POV for Romance authorswith course information found here.Feel free to pop on over to see the syllabus and find out when and where I'mscheduled to teach!
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