“Whenever I asked her about it, there’d be a lot of pain on her...

“Whenever I asked her about it, there’d be a lot of pain on her face. She’d look stricken almost. As if I’d brought up some tragedy. I assumed the worst. I thought rape, or some awful thing. So I just stopped asking, and I grew up without knowing anything about my father. But toward the end of her life, I sat with her in the nursing home. I told her: ‘You’ve been the perfect mother. You did everything right. I have no complaints. But this might be the last time I can ask you, so I’d like to know: ‘What happened with my father?’ And she told me this story. About a whirlwind romance with a Venezuelan computer scientist, who spoke several languages, and swept her off her feet, and then revealed he had a wife. To be honest, I didn’t believe it. It just didn’t seem scandalous enough to keep hidden for all those years. And my mom had developed dementia, so I just assumed it was a story she was telling herself. After her death, I uploaded my DNA to Ancestry, but found nothing interesting. I resigned myself to never knowing. Until last summer, when I finally got a match for a ‘first cousin.’ I sent the woman a message and told her everything I knew. The details matched up. And she confirmed my father was her uncle: Pedro Lance Machado. Then she gave me the most wonderful news: I had six living brothers and sisters. They called me one-by one. None of the conversations were awkward. And they all asked the same thing: ‘When’s the soonest we can meet?’ They flew from all over to celebrate my 51st birthday. They brought all their old photos of my father. We rented a house. One of my sisters cooked ceviche and paella. We played Latin music. We told stories. I was never made to feel like an interloper. They never made me feel like anything but a gift. Overnight, I went from an only child, to a member of the most beautiful family.”
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