I: Ignore #Step9

Sometimes, in life there are things we have to overlook and ignore. It’s simple really. As they say, don’t sweat the small stuff. I remember this time when I was a new bride and managing my own home and hearth and I used to be pretty OCD with the maids. Everything had to be just so. If the legs of the dining table were out of order I’d go ballistic. The table too had to be laid just so. The kitchen had to be spick and span, every nook and cranny. My mother-in-law had come to visit. For two days, she said nothing. Then on the third day she called me aside and told me to learn to overlook thins. Her reason was simple, “you cannot be everywhere at once. Every so often, you have to look the other way.” I was young, I was much more strident in my thoughts but what she said also made sense when I thought about it. I learnt to relax. I learnt to look past the mess in the kitchen as long as it was clean when I wanted to cook something. I learnt that that corner of dust that had been missed was just that. A corner that could be dusted later. Similarly, in life, there are minor little irritants, sometimes big ones too that you have to learn to ignore. Just ask yourself how much it means to you and how much effect does it have on the quality of your life? People will always talk, learn to take it with a pinch of salt. And people have their own assumptions about you. Remember that says nothing about you but says a lot about them. Ignore them, you do not need the whole world to understand you or what you are going through. It’s your life and yours alone. Learn to ignore the voices that do not matter. You do not owe anyone an explanation. And as the following poem by Lawrence S Pertillar (accomplished poet, playwright, actor and performing artist who was named one of America's distinguished poets in 1993) says, we are all entitled to our own ignorance! 

We Are All Entitled To Our Own Ignorance - by Lawrence S. Pertillar
Don't you love it, 
When people interpret your thoughts...
Or something you have said into what they wish? 
You can repeat what you have said, 
And it is still quite missed.

And if what is heard isn't agreed upon...
A debate about it is begun and goes on! 
Nothing in explanation 'sinks' in to consider.
They just aren't getting 'it'! 
Agree...
And walk away! 
Save yourself.
We are all entitled to our own ignorance.
No matter what the depth...
Shallowness or pain of it!