It’s Not Personal, But it Can Stick
Andyone/UnsplashA shift in perspective, a laugh, and a reminder that we don’t have to judge or be judged.
Years ago, I borrowed a bit of my daughter’s bubblegum toothpaste. Insane! I felt like I was getting cavities right there while brushing. My mouth did not feel clean. Or fresh. Or even like an adult.
You’d think I’d learn. Yesterday, running late out the door to a
television appearance I couldn’t find my lipstick. My teen girl, well, she has
plenty, so I checked to make sure my tetanus vaccine was up-to-date, ventured
into her room, and found a mug filled with dozens of sticks and glosses. I
picked out a good color, painted it on without looking, and waaa laaa found
myself covered in something called Cupid Shimmering Liquid Colorstay lip gloss.
And when they say colorstay, they aren’t kidding around.
I looked at myself in the mirror, blinded by the gloss, and
thought, as I blotted frantically with time ticking, OK. I’m just gonna own
this Cupid-shade shit.
I stopped worrying. Stopped taking myself so seriously. Started laughing. I’m a goof. Especially when I try not to be. When I’m trying to be my most adulty, crazy stuff happens. But that’s OK. I’m also human and alive in a world where we have shimmering Cupid Colorstay.
Perspective, people. What if we waved and smiled and laughed at ourselves and along with each other instead of always trying to tweak or change how we look? Instead of judging others for their size or style? We don’t have to take ourselves so seriously. We don’t have to bring the snark. Not everything is personal. In fact, really nothing is. We are the ones that assign that filter.
We are all working with what we have. And, here’s the thing what we have is good enough. Our heart beats without us thinking about it, our lungs expand. We get to feel and think and blink without our conscious thought. We are amazing.
Somedays we are super amazing and able to truly recognize that we are kick-ass awesome. Somedays we are wearing Cupid Shimmering Liquid Colorstay pilfered from our teen daughter.
But all days are better than the alternative. Let’s show up and enjoy it all.
