Don’t tell me to relax

Does anyone else get that thing where someone tells you to relax and it just makes you feel incredibly tense? Because usually they’re telling you to relax when you’re justifiably tense about something. It’s tantamount to sweeping your fear or frustration or anger under the carpet.

My motto used to be “please don’t tell me to relax, it’s only my tension that’s holding me together”.

People would tell me to relax and I had no idea what ‘relaxed’ felt like. Until I discovered this relaxation technique: starting...