How Do You Honor Yours Who Passed Too Soon?

Today is my son Nathan’s 10th birthday in Heaven.

As I shared yesterday, Nathan’s birthday used to flood me with overwhelming grief.   While everyone else was moving on with life,  I felt stuck on hold.  Why didn’t others remember or notice his birthday?

Holidays weren’t much better.  Trying to find joy was an unending struggle with my boy gone.

I’m in a different place now.

Today, I can honestly say that I’m able to celebrate Nathan’s birthday.  Not without yearnings, of course, but I’ve learned that I can keep his memory alive by finding ways to honor his precious spirit and zest for life.

Nathan’s birthday marks the close of summer and the start of a new school year. Soon we’ll be heading into the holiday season.

This is a hard time of year for grieving parents.  You may already be bracing yourself for the agony of your traditional celebrations without your loved one’s presence.

My wish for you is that you’re able to find some pleasure and meaning in the holiday season.

Yes, you’ll feel sorrow, because you are a person who loves deeply.  The deeper the bond, the deeper the pain — but I hope you will also enjoy sharing meaningful times with good friends and family, exchanging gifts, hanging simple decorations, and reconnecting with those you love.

I understand if this sounds utterly impossible right now.  Simply surviving may seem like the best you can do.

Perhaps your plan is to pull back, go through the motions, and simply get through the end of the year.  You might be wondering how you’ll ever be able to walk this painful path for the rest of your life.

If that’s the case, I want you to know that I understand.  I really do, because I’ve been there.

But I also know that you can hope for more than survival.

There is a path through the grief that leads to an engaged, energetic, purposeful version of yourself.

I know because I’ve walked it myself.  And in 30 years of counseling, I’ve guided hundreds of grieving parents down a similar path.

While there is no one-size-fits-all solution, there are time-tested, proven steps that you can take to work through your grief and promote the healing process.  You just have to know what they are and with good support, take one small step at a time.

I do this work because of Nathan, and because of our baby who died half-way to term years ago.

So today, in celebration of Nathan’s birthday, I want to offer you some hope and guidance on your path of healing.

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