Why men should read Romance Novels, but probably still won’t
Most men won’t consider reading a romance novel. I get it, they are written for women. They are also written by women which, is why men should read them. I understand that when you’re a guy, you don’t sit around and think, “Hey, I want to read that book with the half-naked man on the cover who’s obviously more fit than me”. But what you’re not thinking about is how romance novels can actually help you. Romance novels are a great way to find out what women are thinking, what turns them on, and what they really want in a man. If men read more Romance Novels they would probably have better first dates, they’d be more in tune with what their woman really wants from them, and they’d understand what kind of an alpha male roll your lady would like to see in private.
Women romance writers create men in their novels that are far superior to the men in they have encountered in real life. The men they create are their fantasy guy. Now there are still plenty of bad guys in romance books, but they aren’t the ones who get the girl. You need to learn to be like the lead male character. He’s hot – always – but more importantly he’s a good guy. When reading, pay attention to what the woman is thinking about him. Of course, she’s interested in him physically, but what she’s really attracted to is who he is and how he treats her. So even if you’re not walking around with six pack abs and 20” biceps, you’ve got a chance. Women like men who listen to them, who pay attention AND remember what they’ve said. Women enjoy men who make the plans for the date, who open their doors, who give personal attention in public without groping. Romance writers will write this in every book, so pay attention.
If the book has sex in it, pay close attention! These sex scenes are written by women, and basically we are telling you what women like! Granted, no two women enjoy exactly the same thing, but the themes will always be similar. Women want men who take charge in the bed, but ask for consent. They want a guy who can pick them up and turn them over, or lay them down, but more importantly, the guy must want her pleasure more than their own. Romance writers will give you so many scenarios and ideas, your woman will be excited to get you in bed again! They may even instigate sex!
Most importantly these books will help you become the guy any woman would be happy to date. Read the book all the way through, listen to what the protagonist is thinking about the male lead. Realize that she’s not just interested in hopping in bed with him. His biggest strength is that he’s making her love him, even sometimes against her fear of doing so. He is paying attention to every nuance of her personality, as well as her body, and he is willing to embrace and accept all of her!
So if you’re a single guy, or a guy with a girl who he really wants to keep, pick up a romance novel and learn what kind of man she really wants. Then all you’ve got to do is start being that guy! Also it never hurts to ask a girl what she wants, but make sure you chose the right time and place!
