Between A Squawk And A Hard Place

I'm a 32-year-old gay man, and my boyfriend of three years sometimes vents to his friends about our relationship. I feel a little betrayed by this -- like my privacy's being violated. Why can't he figure things out on his own -- without bringing in a jury?

--Disturbed

A few years back, a woman with a grudge against my assistant called me to try to get me to fire her: "She talks trash about you!" Me: "Everybody talks trash about their boss!"

The truth is, we all do a lot of grousing to others...