https://www.amazon.com/dp/0671527959/ The author's brilliant insights and accessible examples reflect a deep understanding of the dynamics of self sabotage And explain why so many of us do ourselves more harm than good: Procrastination, destructive relationships, job failure, inability to advocate for ourselves, these are all examples of what Dr. Brandt calls everyday masochism. He offers wise and brilliant advice for changing these destructive patterns. “I decry the injustice of my wounds, only to look down and see that I am holding a smoking gun in one hand and a fistful of ammunition in the other.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough “One simple thing to destroy the spirit of self-sabotage is to admire the beauty hidden in your ugly circumstances.” ― Israelmore Ayivor