How to take privileges away without becoming a monster

I recently provided some practical discipline tips for parents and I encouraged parents not to take privileges away in a punitive fashion. In another article, the 5 punishment languages, I went as far as saying that if you take things away from kids who have the love language of gifts, you will crush their spirit and teach them a false relationship between behaviour and possessions.

All of that could easily lead you to believe that we never take privileges away from our children and that I do...