Not Everyone Can Skip That Missing Stair

These incidents have taught me how possible it is to miss things happening in close proximity to you. Sometimes not because the issue is happening in private but because the people affected aren't constantly talking about it (to avoid fueling the harasser's fire), or it happens in private spaces you don't have access to, or happens in a pocket of the Internet you don't happen to hang out in, or you have your own shit going on, or whatever.

It upsets me that this stuff happens over and over. The only silver lining I can see is that people seem more willing to finally talk about what's going on in private when they're being hurt or abused or gaslit, and the response from the community at large trends toward the supportive more often than not.

However, there are some lessons from this that I want to hammer home as hard as I can.

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