Go where it’s warm.

Hartley always goes for the sunny spot on the floor.

This reminds me–always go where it’s warm. If the feeling is cold, something is wrong. It doesn’t mean a general indictment, just, not here, not now.

This was something I had to learn, and it was (and still can be) harder than seems logical. But I was used to feeling pretty shitty, so how was I to notice if people, places and things out there added to that feeling?

Now, if I become aware that something feels off, I move into the light. This doesn’t even mean a physical change, it can be as simple as adjusting my perspective.

The other day I was upset because I apologized to someone, and rather than even a simple acceptance, I got more feedback on what was wrong with me. But I have reason to be in contact with this person–ie, I can’t get away–so I tried to look at the situation differently. This is someone who needs to feel in charge. That costs me nothing. For the sake of less suffering, better to let them have their way. Then we’re both off the hook.

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