Some random stories I want y'all to see…
Right after I posted my blog about how great today was because of some great sales, Hubby came home, and in a series of short exchanges he managed to upset me so badly that I almost had a psychotic fit. I ended up screaming on the floor while hubby tried to find a way to calm me down. He failed, twice, so now my throat is raw from screaming. I don't feel better for exploding, and now hubby is gone for two days with this sourness still hurting both of us. So obviously, I'm not in a good mood. About the only upside is, I think I dusted the hallway by wallowing the full length of the floor.
Still, I want to bring some stories to your attention and detail them a bit. I'll be able to avoid raging on these topics, at least, because I'm emotionally drained from my one big explosion today. I swear, I'm sure my neighbors think I'm possessed by demons for all the insane shouting I do.
Anyway, this first story, I've been sitting on for two days because I wanted initially to set it aside for its own day. But in hindsight, the case isn't that shocking, and the cops did not get involved, making the headline a bit misleading. Two twelve-year-olds kissed at school and the principal called the cops on them. The cops declined to investigate this, so the heat should all rightfully fall on an overzealous adult who treats all physical contact as "sex."
I don't really have much to say except this is what we get when zero tolerance mandates are enacted with no attempts at flexibility or recognition of varying levels of infractions. So even a minor infraction like a kiss is treated the same as kids having an orgy in a temporarily unattended class. (Really happened by the way, in a US class in 2007.) Laws, especially laws written around children, NEED flexibility. Otherwise we get cases like this where a principal is calling the police to report an underage romance in progress.
Story two is about one of the victims of Sandunksy, who is now reporting that he has had to leave school for harassment by other students. Apparently, he's being bullied because others think he should have stayed quiet about being molested. So another victim of abuse is pushed away from the system while the bullies continue with finding new targets unopposed.
I think if I wasn't so emotionally drained, this one would earn more outrage from me, precisely because this is the sort of apathetic acceptance of abuse in our modern society that makes my knee jerk. It's like when Chis Brown hit Rhianna and teen girls started going online to defend…Chris, because Rhianna must have done something to deserve being hit. If any of the boys who bullied Sandunsky's victim was abused, they would fall into the same mental traps set out for all abuse victims. But since it's not happening to them, they can't stop long enough to think "Man, that must have been terrible for them." Instead they think "He ruined our football team." And that kind of compartmentalizing is nothing short of insane.
Society tries to shame molest victims into never reporting their assaults at all, and when that fails, the victims will be punished as snitches. This by the same polite society that claims to want to protect all kids. In truth, it's more accurate that only a few privileged kids are protected when the adults can be bothered to feel justified in their moral outrage, while the rest of the victims are neglected and abused in one way or another. This is why my skepticism for the compassion of others remains low even when people claim I'm misreading them. Because what people say they believe and what they do are frequently vastly different things. Yeah, that makes me a bad person. But I admit every day that I'm a bad person. I'm not the one molesting kids while pretending to be a pillar of the community. I'm also not the one telling the victims of said pillar to pipe down so we can get back to thinking about football. The people doing that all claim to be good. The people all doing that would avoid me as a bad influence. And they're hypocrites, so I won't bother finding a nice way to say that.
And finally here's an article from Huffinton post from TDOR, and Pete Subkoviak says everything I've been saying for a while now, that the GLB folks are ignoring how badly the Ts are being hacked apart while they calmly discuss marriage and other first world issues. And as I said in another post, it's not like trans folks expect much. But what we're given is empty promises when lobbies need us, only to have the same lobbies betray us on our most important issues. When we cry foul, we're accused of poisoning the well, which ignores the fact that we were betrayed and suggests that we should accept this kind of dismissive behavior and STILL work toward the rights of people actively working to hurt us.
No. You cannot ask that of me or anyone. And on this I have nothing else to say, so I guess I'm done for now.
