White's writing not only gave me a kind of permission, it gave me one model of how to talk about desire (and sex even), both in a visceral way but also engaging deeper levels of associative power. For example, in one poem he dreams of a lover "going through me like winter bone." Here's that moment.
Some farm kid presses against my leg.
I look at the long backs of men in the field
and doze to dream you're going through me
like winter bone, your logs of arms pushing
me down into some stifling contract with flesh
until I break free for air.
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