New Year’s Resolutions: The Hardest Question You MUST Answer
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It’s time for the New Year’s Resolutions. Countless people all over the world use this last part of December to declare how 2019 will be different. They will write lists, declare all the changes they’ll make, then ride the high for as long as it lasts.
Most New Year’s Resolutions last six months at best… and that’s being generous.
In truth, most crash and burn in seven days.
Some people refuse to make New Year’s Resolutions at all. And, if what I’m saying is true and most New Year’s Resolutions have a shelf-life of a week, why bother? Right?
New Year’s Resolution Haters come heavily armed with detailed reasons why New Year’s Resolutions are dumb and a waste of time. I know them by heart because I was a hater for years. I’ve used all the standard ‘good reasons’ why New Year’s Resolutions are stupid.
Why set myself up to fail?
New Year’s Resolutions are just a bunch of sugar-hyped hopeful thinking.
If I don’t get my hopes up, I can’t be disappointed.
Goals and ‘visioneering’ and dream journaling are just a bunch of self-help hooey.
I’ll stop now because I’m depressing myself.
For the New Year’s Resolutions Haters, I’d like to posit a thought. Resolutions are like relationships.
Sometimes, we keep failing because we’ve never taken time to reverse-engineer why everything went sideways in the first place. We fail to pay attention to when we stumbled and why so we can factor these obstacles into our future goal-setting.
Bear with me…
Bad Decision Besties
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Think of a friend who’s a disaster in dating, and we all have one. This friend just about gets free from one bad relationship, only to leap into a brand new relationship with the same guy/gal, only in a different-though-often-eerily-similar-body.
*face palm*
You watch from the sidelines in horror. How can your friend NOT see that the new fling is the SAME EXACT sort of @$$hat you’ve spent the past six months extracting them from?
Short of hiring those people who abduct then deprogram loved ones caught up in a cult, you’ve done everything to show dimwit friend WHY this ‘new’ relationship is more toxic than a Manson Family Holiday Special.
Now, as this person’s bestie, we see our friend is being a nitwit who’s repeating a nitwit pattern. But our nitwit friend, whom we still love despite being a nitwit, never changes. Why? Because our friend has never asked (and answered) the hard questions. Thus, they’re doomed to ‘Dating Groundhog Day.’
By the way, if you don’t have this friend, likely YOU are the friend 
