Ancestral trauma: Whose grief is it, anyway?

It’s happened to many of us: betrayal by a friend or lover in whom we put our total trust, leaving us grief-stricken. But whose grief is it, anyway?

Because it may not all be ours.

It happened to me about 20 years ago: my best friend decided she didn’t want to be friends any more.

Nothing particularly happened between us. She just reconnected with an old high school friend and decided she’d rather be best friends with her than me.

I got dropped like a sack of rocks, leaving me heartbroken.