Behind Door #1
A few days ago I turned 66 which for me opens a gift I’ve been paying for during my working life—social security. People look at me funny because I’m so excited to finally be able to draw on those funds, but really, even though it’s my own money that I’m getting access to, it’s still a thrill. Call me crazy, but I’m really pumped!
Just a couple of weeks ago I was watching ‘The Price Is Right’; it was a rare opportunity because I never watch daytime TV. I think I was getting some work done on my car. Anyway, I recall seeing a woman on stage and she was winning really insignificant things, like some new kitchen knives, some appliances, and I think some tools. I’m thinking, “WOW. This is really depressing…has even ‘The Price Is Right’ gotten so low as to give away cheap gifts?” Just as I’m thinking that, Door #1 opens to an announcer saying, “And a new car!” Much better!
What if Life has doors behind which different choices lead to different results? We won’t know what’s behind other doors once we choose one, which makes each one important. However, what if there’s one door that if we open in first, will make everything work out best for us? No, not perfectly, not without lessons, but one that gets us going on our best path?
I believe that door exists, and I call it my ‘Adore’ door.
Here’s what I’ve learned in 65 years…nothing works very well until you learn to adore yourself. Some people still believe that it’s selfish and wrong even though taken in context it’s incredibly important. If we don’t honor who we are and follow our true passion, we get off track and life is just hard.
I learned that only after spending years trying to follow a path that wasn’t mine. It worked for others and I truly believed that it should work for me as well. That made me a follower, which is a clue to being on a path that might not actually be yours…especially if you aren’t having fun; especially if you feel like you ‘have to’; especially if you keep thinking about other things you’d rather be doing.
To adore oneself is really about self-respect; about putting what I believe and what I want to do with my life in first place. I call it Me First. If you believe, like I do, that Life has a purpose for us being where we are, it’s not only important to follow that sense of what your life is about, but it’s downright, bottom line, essential to a wonderful life.
Every so often during a day, I like to stop and ask myself, Right now, am I doing exactly what I believe is best for me and my life? Am I adoring who I am–who I was created to be? Does my life feel right to me? I can usually tell if I’m ‘on purpose’ because I get a sense that I am truly doing what I’m doing to honor myself and my life. Somehow, everything else simply opens up in incredible ways and everyone gets my best.
More about how to love and adore yourself in my memoir, “I Was a Yo-Yo Wife…Until I Learned THIS!”.
Vivian!
Stay tuned as I put finishing touches on a six-volume series titled “The Woman Who Forgot Who She Was”. Coming 2019 (I hope).
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