Ask Sheila: Help! Foreplay Hurts–My Husband’s Wrist!

What do you do if foreplay actually hurts–the guy I mean?

Yep, here at To Love, Honor and Vacuum, we tackle every kind of sex question imaginable. And today, for my Ask Sheila video, I thought I’d tackle this one (and with many thanks to the Ultimate Intimacy app for sponsoring this post–and to those of you who have replied to my Instagram stories about it with quite funny memes):

I just finished The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex and loved it. The biggest thing I gained from your book was simply that physical intimacy is a huge part of marriage and I need to focus on it. As a result, my husband and I have been intimate much more lately. This past week was the first time we achieved intimacy 4 times in a week (we’ve been married for 8.5 years). This was a huge success for us and the success is filtering into other areas of our relationship because of it. However, one problem we’ve had is that my husband has significant pain in his wrist from clitoral stimulation. And because of the increase in frequency, the pain is worse. Do you have any practical suggestions for this problem? I should say that I am 7 months pregnant, so I know that one suggestion might be to try to find ways to orgasm during intercourse, but this probably isn’t the best time to take that on as positions are currently a bit limited