Codependency Relapse: Step 2, Victim No More
I’m in the middle of a codependency relapse. Over the last few months, I completely lost my serenity. To find it, I had to go back to Step One without passing GO or collecting $200. This week, I regained my serenity by turning my victim mentality over to my Higher Power.
A Quick Review Of The Steps
I love the 12 Steps. For years, I tried counseling and several medications to help alleviate my depression and anxiety, but nothing worked. When I finally started attending Al-anon meetings, everything clicked. They follow AA’s same 12-steps, and the logical order of this practice really works for me.
Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism (or other family dysfunction), that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step 2 – We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Winning The Award For Best Lead Victim In A Drama, Real Or Imagined
Now, back to my crisis at hand…I have been the victim in a number of circumstances. For instance, I:
Grew up in an alcoholic home
As a teenager, I basically raised my younger brother Ricky
Witnessed a fatal car accident
Survived physical and emotional abuse
Witnessed an armed robbery
I’ve also been the victim in countless other minor dramas like:
That jack-wagon just cut me off on the interstate
A woman at Target yelled at me
My son lied to me
My cat is suffering from a very normal urinary tract infection
I can turn any situation into a drama, which of course, needs a victim to play the lead role. Who better to play it than me?