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But back to the original question. . . I can't see how you develop a doctor-patient relationship when you have to have a specific power balance (in favour of the doctor) to allow the doctor to give a level of care sometimes degrading and/or painful to the patient. It's not on the level as a parent-child or teacher-student one, so certainly a peer-peer or friend-friend relationship would be out of the question. It's a quandry.


In either case, from the patient's viewpoint, the doctor wouldn't be seen as someone to chat with in a semi-familiar form unless being it was being used as a distraction from fear. (as I said previously, with a preferred 15 minute time limit per patient for a doctor, the doctor might feel under pressure to not do that)
I suppose, for your ideal situation to aquire the relationship you're talking about, would be to have small practices within a limited population group/area, where doctors would be assigned as a "lifetime" posting as happens in some small outlying towns. The patients see the doctor as an extention of the fabric of their general life. It would be wonderful.
Within this discussion, it reminded me of the practice I'm with - it was originally located in a house within walking distance to my Grandfather's house, and many of my Mother's family would go there. The practice for many years (about 20 years) only had had three doctors. I first went there when I was 8 months old. and yes, there was many a doctor-patient relationship which developed to the point where the doctors were invited to family weddings and christams cards were exchanged (the practice had strings of Christmas cards festooning the waiting room in the countdown to christmas) I could see, growing up, that the changing NHS changed the doctor-patient dynamics for what we have now.
That was the NHS at it's finest, where the care of the patient was paramount. It's very obvious that now, the monetary balancing of a practice takes precedence. So sad.
Even if there's nothing the doctor can do, the fact a patient has been listened to and understood (granted, sometimes difficult if the patient is unable to clearly articulate what exactly is wrong or forget to tell the doctor all of the sympoms they're experiencing), then they feel cared for.
I'm a patient in the UK's broken NHS, and doctors have a guideline of spending 15 minutes per patient.
I've seen many doctors in the practice I'm signed with (I've been with it for over 40 years), and the best doctors in the practice (permanent or training), take the time to listen. They'll admit when they don't understand and ask questions. I don't mind if they don't understand - and I realise they can only work with the information given - but if they don't listen and get my "solution" wrong - it makes ME angry and disappointed.