On taking daily decisions

Okay, so this is not about the decisions that you must take jointly – as a family or as a group of friends. This is all about the decisions that you and only you must take on a daily basis. Like, what am I going to eat for dinner? What should I wear for that function? Is it necessary for me to attend that party? Should I follow that home remedy for this flu? Should I eat that dish, even though I despise it? Should I attend this call and talk to this person right now? These are some of the daily questions to which you must take decisions. When I tell that you must take decisions, it means that only you have a say in them.

If you don’t want to eat something, then don’t. If you don’t want to wear that dress for that function, then don’t. If you don’t want to follow that particular home remedy suggested by so and so person, then don’t. If you feel that you don’t want to attend that party, then don’t. Take strong decisions and stick to them. You might think why I should emphasize on taking these simple decisions. You might also say that you are already taking those decisions by yourself and that I need not preach you on that. But there comes a time in your life when you might feel that you can tweak your decisions. This is when you allow someone you love / respect have a say in these small decisions. It might be your parent or your spouse or your best friend.

Sometimes, the person whom you love can manipulate your decisions in the name of love. They would tell you what to do and what not to do. They would demand you to wear that particular dress for that function or follow that particular home remedy for your flu. When you resist their suggestions, they would turn angry and argue with you. They think that they have the authority to impose their suggestions on you and that you’d follow them out of love and respect. However, this should not be the case. You can appreciate their suggestions, but don’t let go of your identity. Take these daily decisions on your own and follow them staunchly. Politely tell the other person that this is who you are and this is what you like to do. If they truly love you and respect you, they would surely accept your decisions. Never lose your independency at any cost.

If you are going to give in to their choices or decisions, then you are going to lose your ability to think on your own and decide what is good for you. Don’t let that happen to you. Stick to your daily decisions and allow your loved ones to take their own decisions. You can suggest whatever you want, but let them take the final call. The same applies to vice-versa. Forced choices will make you unhappy in the long run. Lead your life smoothly by being strong and determined in your daily decisions.

Love,

Kavya Janani. U