Question 143: About loneliness
Question 143: If we are all interconnected in the oneness of Life, why is loneliness such a problem?
Loneliness is definitely a problem when you live in duality with a sense of separation from other beings. It is a health problem for people who have feelings of loneliness in a chronic way. Studies have shown that the effects of chronic loneliness can be the equivalent of smoking 10 to 15 cigarettes a day. Other studies have shown the beneficial effects of living in loving communities of people, and also the good effects that pets have on people. The good effects can be measured in health indicators and in increased life expectancy. Most people need to be in situations where they can love and be loved in return. Solitary confinement is such a harsh prison experience because people are cut off from human interactions.
Although some people can thrive with very little human interaction, (like people who enjoy solitude), most humans thrive when they are surrounded by people who love them. Everyone needs a place to be somebody who is loved and respected as a unique person.
If you live in the realization of the oneness of life you will never be lonely because you will know that you are connected to all life everywhere. Usually people who are dedicated to seeking the truth about life gather together to support one another. So people who believe in the oneness of life support each other in various ways. Not everyone is at the same stage, and in this world of duality some of us can fall back into feelings of separation from others and from our very Creator. Sometimes life conditions can drag us down if we let them
If you have a friend or spiritual mentor who has realized his or her oneness with our Divine Spirit then you have a friend who will always be connected to your consciousness, and you can call on them to help you reconnect to your eternal and infinite soul. For many people that person would be Jesus, or Krishna, or Buddha, but there are many more Self-realized beings who are helping the people on Earth get back to realizing their own oneness with our Creator God.
The key point in this life of realizing our oneness is that we need to take responsibility for our own state of consciousness. Nobody else can make the realization for us. There is no external savior who will make the decision for us. We must do it on our own volition. Even if one has a great support group, loneliness can creep in until we are fully liberated and living in complete oneness with our Creator and thus in oneness with all life everywhere. We do have a great support group of ascended beings cheering us on.
Once you do realize your oneness with all life then you can befriend all of life. Trees and plants will become your friends, animals of all kinds will be looked upon with love and understanding. You will see the Divine Spirit everywhere and in everything. And from then on Life is ever new and ever fascinating.
If you go deeper and deeper into your own heart, you’ll be living in a world with less fear, isolation and loneliness. — Sharon Salzberg
At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one’s lost self. –Brendan Behan
What is man without the beasts? For if all the beast were gone, man would die of a great loneliness of the spirit. — Chief Seattle
The eternal quest of the individual human being is to shatter his loneliness. — Norman Cousins
