Long views are always better

I’m a very straight shooter for a chick.  Always have been.  Life is easier when you’re straightforward and avoid getting side-tracked with bullshit.

Sadly, the Incredibly Beautiful Man is unable to open his mouth and let anything nice out.  I cannot help him with this, as apparently feeling secure is quite alien to him.

I tried demonstrating what grown-ups do.  I avoided responding to the chest-puffing fight or flight response.  I tried ignoring the slack-jawed staring and being gently patronising.  I have tried responding to bullshit by being extremely pleasant.

I have also given this person a lot of space and avoided any potential for friction.  The conversations I have attempted have been about work – either the work I’m actually doing there or my work.

I am also aware, because I can sit and watch it on this website, that this person repeatedly lies in order to make you feel small, for some reason I cannot fathom.  How this is supposed to help his personal relationships or interactions with people he works with I do not know?

So, it is rather unfortunate, but apparently the only people this person can manage to be nice to are people he can ridicule on some level that only he decides on.  Apart from that, he is a little OCD and a bit of a pain in the ass, and apparently lacks capacity to grow out of it.  This is most unfortunate.

So, because of this instability, I now have to leave a shift that I quite enjoyed and that I had friends on, for a shift where I do not know anybody.  The sooner this can be done the better for all concerned, as I am not likely to want to deal with this crap again.  I have twice had cause to tell this person that he lacks interpersonal ability, and I do not want to be put in this position again.

Why you would adopt this level of fragility when trying to deal with people I do not know.  I can only assume that it is inexperience.

The flirting element consisted of mimed communication and giggling, and I am again unsure how you are supposed to move on with that.  If only he was capable of relating to me as a person he would realise how unpleasant he was being, but he is acting out stuff I grew out of long, long ago.

Let that be a lesson to me about little people.  Keep them at a long, long distance.

 

 

 

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