Matrimonial fields
My husband and I were spring cleaning our house when we found a stack of wedding invitation cards. Looking through the cards we found that most of those marriages were already finished or were on the rocks. Ironically, most of the cards still looked as good as new.
It’s a sad state of affairs, all these break-ups. It’s not just a couple that gets divorced or goes on in an unhappy marriage. These conflicts also affect the families and friends of the two people involved in all this drama.
Marriage is a “contract” in which two individuals live together, sharing and caring. For compatible habitation, it is necessary for each individual in the marriage to don a different cap depending on the phase they are going through which means one has to be a companion, a friend, a parent, a child, a domestic help and sometimes just an onlooker.
What makes most marriages go sour are trust issues. Simple mistakes are often blown out of proportion which then accumulate and ultimately wreck the relationship. Another common factor is possessiveness. Just because you share a life doesn’t mean you become his or her property and his or her life ought to be dictated by the other.
A lot of matrimonial dissensions can be avoided when the partners learn to respect each other’s intentions and give each other their space. Like two oxen pulling a plough through a field. There may be tough patches in the field that can cause the balance to topple. But if that can be handled with patience then the field of life is theirs.
However, in spite of patient handling, if the disrupted harmony continues to create discord then the best option is to separate the two before the field is nothing but a mess.
Vidya Shankar
Published in The Gulf Today / Short Take, dt May 19, 2018)
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It’s a sad state of affairs, all these break-ups. It’s not just a couple that gets divorced or goes on in an unhappy marriage. These conflicts also affect the families and friends of the two people involved in all this drama.
Marriage is a “contract” in which two individuals live together, sharing and caring. For compatible habitation, it is necessary for each individual in the marriage to don a different cap depending on the phase they are going through which means one has to be a companion, a friend, a parent, a child, a domestic help and sometimes just an onlooker.
What makes most marriages go sour are trust issues. Simple mistakes are often blown out of proportion which then accumulate and ultimately wreck the relationship. Another common factor is possessiveness. Just because you share a life doesn’t mean you become his or her property and his or her life ought to be dictated by the other.
A lot of matrimonial dissensions can be avoided when the partners learn to respect each other’s intentions and give each other their space. Like two oxen pulling a plough through a field. There may be tough patches in the field that can cause the balance to topple. But if that can be handled with patience then the field of life is theirs.
However, in spite of patient handling, if the disrupted harmony continues to create discord then the best option is to separate the two before the field is nothing but a mess.
Vidya Shankar
Published in The Gulf Today / Short Take, dt May 19, 2018)
gulftoday.ae/portal/27ccfbd4-3c2d-4d6b-8868-72882ae0d4ee.aspx
Here's my first book! An ensemble of poetry and photographs.
Click the link below to watch a 30-second promo video.
https://youtu.be/5BhbjMaIwpk
You can buy it at this link:
https://notionpress.com/read/the-flautist-of-brindaranyam
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