Giving birth does not entitle a woman to claim the title of Mother any more then getting a woman pregnant entitles a man to claim the title of Father. Titles should be earned.
Earning the title of Mother involves always striving to provide the child for whom you share responsibility an example of how to live a good life through actions, not words. The adage "Do as I say not as I do!" doesn't cut it.
Reward a child when they have earned it and punish them when they deserve it. Do memorable things with a child as often as possible. This often means having to do what they want rather than what you would rather be doing. Those memories will remain with them long after you are gone. Listen to them when they need to talk. Talk to them when they need to listen. Most of all, never stop loving them. Sometimes they will do or say something that makes loving them difficult, but you must do it anyway. Children need love the most when they least deserve it.
For those of you who have truly earned the title of Mother, I salute you on this your special day. Happy Mother's Day!
Published on May 13, 2018 12:55
Thank you for the insight Jim - wise and to the point as always.