What I Find Attractive

It’s funny I’d need to address this topic. But then, I never have. People have almost never asked me and I’ve never shared because it didn’t relate to my writing. That was for an audience and my opinions on men are personal. But I’ve felt it would be best to make something clear. My expectations from men are also my opinions from people. They apply to women too. True, there’s a specific factor with guys, but in any friendship, any relationship, I look for exactly the same thing.

Politeness. And a pleasant personality.

I don’t know why people think a bad attitude will be something I find appealing--or at least, acceptable. That’s definitely not true. I’m not demanding, but you have to be pleasant to be around. That’s literally the only thing I care about in any kind of friend, not just a guy. Nothing makes you more attractive than a nice personality—and if you don’t have one, I won’t ever forget it. Jerkishness can be subtle as well as blatant, sometimes just a tone that shouldn’t be there, but it’s indicative of so much more below the surface. Even a tiny jerk needs to be dropped fast because they will start spewing out of control if you don’t.

I know there’s been a culture of promoting jerks in books, but the fact I am an author doesn’t mean I am into them. I’ve never written about such a character as a hero because I don’t like them. I also don’t like women who act this way, and I quickly give them a really low score and dismiss the friendship. Being nice really is the best idea in the long run. If you’re unpleasant to be around, you are getting negative scores that will impact you forever.

And there will be more updates.