Texting Pros and Cons for Women

Below are my top texting pros and cons for women. Texting is how the masses are communicating today. Many of my readers are just getting back into the dating world and they are intimidated texting with a new guy they just met and really like!

Pros:

Texting does not require you to be fast on your feet with responses – wittiness can come because you have time to respond, whereas face-to-face, you are left with a dry conversation if the wit doesn’t come
Nervousness doesn’t come through in a text, so sweaty palms, shaky hands, a quivering voice can go unnoticed when you type out a message
When you practice ‘texting similarity’ with a guy, he perceives you as being in sync and your relationship is more harmonious
You can be flirtatious in between dates, keeping things a little hot
A quick “I love you” or “Just thinking about you” text during the day can remind someone you care about them
Texting can be a quick response if you cannot talk to someone at that moment but want them to know you’re aware they’re trying to contact you
When you’re separated by distance, texting can be an inexpensive and quick way to stay in touch
Women use texting to apologize, work out problems or bring up issues to be dealt with later

Cons:

You might find yourself in relationship texting maintenance mode – the more texts sent, the more that are expected
You cannot decipher the mood of the text, misunderstandings occur easily
Texting can replace face-to-face contact if it is more comfortable, leading to a lack of true time spent together
Heavy texting is associated with both men and women feeling dissatisfied with their relationship
You can find chemistry in texting that then does not exist in person
It is easy to over analyze both the texts you send and those you receive – putting more than necessary weight on the placement or use of exclamation points, capital letters, etc.
You don’t have the advantage of the use of body language to accentuate your message
Your own texting behavior can place labels on you – you’re too needy, you’re too quick or slow to respond, you can’t spell, your language skills are lacking, etc.
You can get caught up in an endless cycle wondering when it will end and who will finally end it
You can stay at a level of casualness in a relationship where it neither declines or advances but just remains status quo
Relationships which rely heavily on texting can be easier to end quickly because there is a lack of intimacy you would only gain spending time together in person
Overuse of technology is leading people to be unable to express emotions in person – they don’t know how because they spend all of their time in emotionless texts and emails versus one-on-one communications where you can see the outcome of what you say or do to someone
Men use texting to distance themselves in a relationship or disengage from deeper intimacy
Texting is a written form of communication which can be recalled later, including in legal battles
Texting is not a good way to deepen a relationship – that requires face-to-face time where intimacy can be built
Too much texting can make you look needy or clingy – stalkerish even
Texts can be edited and therefore can be modified from the original thought – whereas a phone call is out there – you can’t take your words back – so texts can be ‘false’ messages, not true from the heart
You don’t get to know the ‘real’ person, but the version of themselves that they want to send via text – i.e. they can be funnier, seem more relaxed than they are in person

At the core of every amazing relationship (and every great text!) is a conversation built out of challenging the other person. In your case, the guy you like.

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