Where is the Middle?

Today I had a very strange thing happen. I'm very used to fighting on social media with people 'across the aisle' from my own political beliefs, but today I was fighting with my own. It completely brought into focus more of the bigger picture that is tearing apart America. We only want to speak to those that share ALL of our common beliefs and if not...you're dead to us.
I know I am very guilty of finding my tribe, drinking the kool-aid, getting the free toaster - all that comes with the welcome package. But I've always known it's not completely black and white. (Obviously I believe in diverse thoughts: this blog is called Adversity & Diversity.) When I take a quiz about where I stand on the political spectrum, I usually land (gulp) somewhere in the middle. I'm not a full on liberal though I have many liberal views. And I know I'm not a conservative, though I was raised with many of those views as well. But I can go to town with the best of them trolling Trump daily, yelling at the GOP bots that praise everything coming out of the current administration, and basically despising anything around the name Trump. That has nothing to do with Clinton or Democrats; I have never liked the man nor do I support him. 
HOWEVER - 
I also believe we have a right AND responsibility to speak up against our own party when they are wrong. I did that today watching "The View" when Joy made a blanket statement that she was offended by ALL Republicans. I took to twitter and instantly, I was attacked...by my own side. It was fascinating. People with #LGBT and #TheResistance in their bio were coming for me like I was the enemy. I suppose in their mind, I was. Because I wasn't 100% with them.
We are in a world of absolutes now and I find it terrifying: 
If you're not 100% with me, you're against me. If you don't show me loyalty, you must go. If you don't share every same view on #MeToo #BlackLivesMatter #TimesUp (insert hashtag here), you must not be a caring liberal and therefore are the enemy.
It's a fascinating chasm we've created. And yes...we HAVE created it. The moment you veer from the far left or far right to find any kind of common ground, you are the outsider. 
I'm not sure what we can do about it because the divide will only get stronger. There are Democrats that I love and yet, there are Republicans who I also greatly respect and admire. I think their common traits are they can have their political beliefs, but also see the area in between and know when it's right to call out their own party. 
So where does that leave the passionate people who care about their country, but also see we work best when we can find common ground? I'm sure not.
Disclaimer: Yes...you will still see me fighting on social media about LGBT rights being stripped away or a multitude of other issues. But I'll also have these moments where I stop and attempt to speak to people that supposedly share my views and make note that none of us will ever see eye-to-eye about everything.