went through a(n) verbally abusive relationship as well with an ignorant piece of shit and was looked upon as if it wasn’t concerned actual abuse :/ howd you get through it all?

Some people won’t believe what we say unless they have proof. That’s the ignorance of it all. Mostly when it comes to abuse from a significant other. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been questioned about it. “Did he really do that?” “But you stayed with him for so long.” “But he was really nice when you started dating.” “He did this and this for you so there’s no way he could’ve said or done that.” As time went on I realized that it didn’t matter if anyone believed me because I knew the truth. All I could do was confide in those who truly love me and trust me. I vented so much. I wrote about it so often. I confronted him at one point but all he did (as he did before) was deny it and turn the tables on me. I found out that the girlfriend he had after me (she was my neighbor) he also did to her what he did to me. People don’t change. It took me a good year to finally mend the wounds he left me with. I’ve been fortunate because I found someone (after years of searching) who truly loves me and cares for me. So don’t give up on hope and on love. Don’t believe that everyone person you come across is going to hurt you like they did. Know what you deserve. Know what you’re worth. Because in that case you will never settle and you will never let anyone make you feel less. Don’t ever ever ever blame yourself, ever. No one deserves to be treated like dirt. No one deserves to be talked down upon by someone who claims they love them and care for them. Realize that love isn’t hurt. Know that you’re stronger now and you won’t take any persons shit who treats you like you don’t deserve kindness, affection and love. All you can do is move on. All you can do is trust in yourself and believe that you’re going to find someone who is worth your time and the love you give them. You have so much love to give!!! Don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t appreciate it.