When Are You Who You Really Are?
I think this is a million dollar question everyone is hunting the answer for. You may have come across a similar analysis in another blog post too. Just last night, I was reading Taylor Swift’s Reputation magazine, where in the intro she’s mentioned how we present the version of ourselves we want to present to the world. And I got to thinking, then when are we who we really are? When is the exact moment or hour you are your own true self? Is it when we are cranky and irate to our family members or comforting a best friend? Or when we’re happy and liberated during a holiday tour or trying to exercise patience when you’re loaded with a lot of work and responsibilities?
I’ve seen people be extremely happy when they’re about to fly off for a one week holiday. The previous night, you’d be sweeping the necessary essentials into your bag along with all your clothes and would be preparing to eliminate all kinds of stress or troubling thoughts so you can enjoy every single second of the holiday. Cause that’s what the entire point of this holiday is: Forgetting about things that can get you down. Though the elimination isn’t accomplished completely while you’re still in the house, it can be a done deal once you’re well out of the perimeter.
It’s like throwing one object after the other out of a moving vehicle. The empty bag in your hands is peace, the bag you’ll load with other stuff at the destination of the holiday.
It’s even better when you have teammates. The enthusiasm for the trip contributed by each person combines into this bright ray of sunshine that makes you skip around and laugh.
But after your holiday is over and you’re back in the house, the reality of life comes back to challenge you and sometimes when you can’t plan or prioritise your work, or things don’t go the way you wish to, that’s when you either exercise patience or explode with irritation.
So who’s this person who throws back their head and laughs into the sky while you’re having fun and the person who’s trying to pull through each day while faced with challenges you’d rather not be faced with? When are you who you really are?
Are you the kind and considerate soul to a person who you don’t see around that much? Or are you the cranky elf to the ones you have to see day after day, especially at your place of employment?
Are you the insecure child who’s afraid of anyone and anything and can’t find a place in this world, or are you the strong, confident young adult who can grab a meanie by the collar and drive your knee into its solar plexus, while shades of your former insecurity sometimes rear their head in another situations where you can’t use your knee like that?
Are you the emotional and sensitive teenager who can lash out on anyone because your jar of Nutella spilled all over the kitchen floor or are you the calm and measured adult who now cleans it spotlessly and runs out for a fresh jar, while emotional because your favourite artifact broke instead?
When are we who we really are?
I guess the answer to this question is, we’re ourselves in every situation. The happy, emotional, irritated, confused, mischievous, insecure, angry, patient, fun … it’s all a part of who you are.
When everyone else is enjoying the cricket match and yelling at the screen, you’re drawing in your sketch-note, quiet. That’s you. And that’s them.
When everyone wants to try oysters, you’d rather settle for the safe chicken. That’s you. And that’s them.
When your best friend is crying at the ending of the movie, you’re just sitting there wondering what’s there to cry about (And you’re alleged to be heartless). That’s you. And that’s her.
When everyone would like to have that plump goat roasted for dinner, you want to keep it as a pet and play with it. That’s you. And that’s them.
We’re all this incredible package deal of who we really are.
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Live it.
Experience it.
Have an amazing evening ahead.
Best,
Deepika
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