Against narratives that are against things

So many novels, especially "literary" ones (i.e. stories about bourgeois people getting their feelings hurt) are about people trying to control each other, get each other to change, or at least change their behaviour. If the other person changes, the person demanding the change thinks they'll (both?) be happy, or at least happier. (This seems to be God's problem in the Old Testament.) 

What about a narrative of acceptance? Not acceptance as a climax, the protagonist having "learned something,"...