Bleeding Queens --- Marriage Or Curse???
I was so busy last month that couldn’t find the time to write a single line of what I feel. Actually, I was fighting with severe cold and the numbness of my ears. I was only hearing my own voice.
A voice that itself rises when something bad or wrong is happening around.
A voice that is determined to bring change!
And I went through a shocking incident that cleared my goal of “Bringing Change, No Matter What!”
A very near & dear one, a lady was being a victim of domestic abuse, mainly of marital rape type abuse. When you will read this reality that happened in front of many of us, knowing that kind, religious and social lady, at the age of 42, having two girls, one is 18 years and other 14 years, all the three were going through all this for last 8-10 years.
Her husband was abusing her, inside house, like a slave, more as sex-slave. Being at that age, a woman body goes through so much that her body looses strength to fight back. And, She went through that after having six abortions as her husband’s urge for a boy.
Six abortions???
It was quite shocking for everybody who came to know about this. But the story did not end there. Her husband starting having affairs outside and recently, from one of their acquaintances, she came to know that after so much year of dedication towards her relationship, all that she gave—
Care
Love
Loyalty
Support
She got what, that her husband brought girls to have sex only, at house, in her absence.
What the hell???
And he used to treat her in front of everybody like queen!
She never revealed her pain ever but only smile.
I must tell you all that whenever I used to read or watch news of domestic violence, I never always had been biased. But, in her case, I almost felt puking.
And so furious at the same time that wanted to beat that man to death. His words when we asked questions about why he did so….
“I took birth as a man and she is my property. She is born as a woman to cook food for me, give birth and to satisfy me anyhow and it’s not up to her will, it’s my need whenever I want and wherever. She is bound to obey me till she dies and, (adding with a cunning voice), I give her shelter, food and clothes and she cannot leave me or even say a word.”
All who were listening to these words, were cursing and scolding that asshole to the deepest, angriest part of one’s mind. He actually admitted whatsoever he did to her, upfront and without any single curve on his forehead.
He meant only one thing…
She’s my wife.
She’s a body.
And I’m his owner.
That’s it!!
We, almost 7-8 couples were there when this all happened, couldn’t find out ever what was happening in their lives, what those three women were going through inside that house if, on that small get together, one of all the kids hadn’t told us, out loud that she
(that lady) was moaning in the bathroom. One of us knocked to ask what happened and suddenly, he got out and she was sitting inside, on the floor, weeping and bleeding. We took her to hospital and the doctor confirmed us that she was raped and most of her inner parts were damaged by continuous beating through that crime, and that too on daily basis. That’s why she was bleeding hard.
We confronted him but him, being rich and loaded with self-superiority, told us to leave as she was not under 18 and she’s his wife.
Although we didn’t leave and filed a complaint against him. But still felt helpless when she, the mother of two very intelligent and beautiful daughters, said,
“At least my daughters are living under a secured roof, outside world is more horrible. It’s not about my life and past & present, it’s all about their life and future!”
So much difference na........ in a vicious man’s words and a gentle loving mother!
A woman lives and dies for others and a man….??????
Yet, we convinced her to take a step now and finally, she agreed!
Relieved a bit but still my inner voice is asking…
WHEN WILL THIS STOP?
Things are much worse than what’s get reported or gets into limelight.
MUCH WORSE!!!!
A voice that itself rises when something bad or wrong is happening around.
A voice that is determined to bring change!
And I went through a shocking incident that cleared my goal of “Bringing Change, No Matter What!”
A very near & dear one, a lady was being a victim of domestic abuse, mainly of marital rape type abuse. When you will read this reality that happened in front of many of us, knowing that kind, religious and social lady, at the age of 42, having two girls, one is 18 years and other 14 years, all the three were going through all this for last 8-10 years.
Her husband was abusing her, inside house, like a slave, more as sex-slave. Being at that age, a woman body goes through so much that her body looses strength to fight back. And, She went through that after having six abortions as her husband’s urge for a boy.
Six abortions???
It was quite shocking for everybody who came to know about this. But the story did not end there. Her husband starting having affairs outside and recently, from one of their acquaintances, she came to know that after so much year of dedication towards her relationship, all that she gave—
Care
Love
Loyalty
Support
She got what, that her husband brought girls to have sex only, at house, in her absence.
What the hell???
And he used to treat her in front of everybody like queen!
She never revealed her pain ever but only smile.
I must tell you all that whenever I used to read or watch news of domestic violence, I never always had been biased. But, in her case, I almost felt puking.
And so furious at the same time that wanted to beat that man to death. His words when we asked questions about why he did so….
“I took birth as a man and she is my property. She is born as a woman to cook food for me, give birth and to satisfy me anyhow and it’s not up to her will, it’s my need whenever I want and wherever. She is bound to obey me till she dies and, (adding with a cunning voice), I give her shelter, food and clothes and she cannot leave me or even say a word.”
All who were listening to these words, were cursing and scolding that asshole to the deepest, angriest part of one’s mind. He actually admitted whatsoever he did to her, upfront and without any single curve on his forehead.
He meant only one thing…
She’s my wife.
She’s a body.
And I’m his owner.
That’s it!!
We, almost 7-8 couples were there when this all happened, couldn’t find out ever what was happening in their lives, what those three women were going through inside that house if, on that small get together, one of all the kids hadn’t told us, out loud that she
(that lady) was moaning in the bathroom. One of us knocked to ask what happened and suddenly, he got out and she was sitting inside, on the floor, weeping and bleeding. We took her to hospital and the doctor confirmed us that she was raped and most of her inner parts were damaged by continuous beating through that crime, and that too on daily basis. That’s why she was bleeding hard.
We confronted him but him, being rich and loaded with self-superiority, told us to leave as she was not under 18 and she’s his wife.
Although we didn’t leave and filed a complaint against him. But still felt helpless when she, the mother of two very intelligent and beautiful daughters, said,
“At least my daughters are living under a secured roof, outside world is more horrible. It’s not about my life and past & present, it’s all about their life and future!”
So much difference na........ in a vicious man’s words and a gentle loving mother!
A woman lives and dies for others and a man….??????
Yet, we convinced her to take a step now and finally, she agreed!
Relieved a bit but still my inner voice is asking…
WHEN WILL THIS STOP?
Things are much worse than what’s get reported or gets into limelight.
MUCH WORSE!!!!
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