THE A IN SELF LOVE

“Like anyone you love, you have to learn to respect yourself and that means becoming a person you’re proud of   —   one who holds themselves to commitments, shows up when they say they will and takes the needs of others into consideration. Self-love does not mean putting yourself ahead of others without good reason.” Kris Cage


WHAT HAPPENS AFTER YOU HAVE REACHED A POINT OF UNCONDITIONAL SELF LOVE? DOES LIFE JUST RUN SMOOTHLY? IS THERE CONTINUAL BLISS? ARE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS MAGICALLY SOLVED?WELL I WOULD SAY NOUNCONDITIONAL SELF LOVE IS NOT THE ANSWER TO ALLIT REALLY ISN’TUNCONDITIONAL SELF LOVE OFFERS HOPE THE HOPE FOR CONFIDENCE TO DEAL WITH THE CHALLENGES ONE WILL INEVITABLY FACE ON THIS JOURNEY CALLED LIFEDO NOT BE FOOLED INTO THINKING FINDING UNCONDITIONAL SELF LOVE IS THE ULTIMATE FIXERWHAT THIS LOVE DOES IS, IT HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE, IT MAKES YOU MORE RESPONSIBLE AND IT LEADS TO MAKING MORE HOPEFUL AND LOVING DECISIONS BOTH FOR YOU AND OTHERSIT DOES NOT GIVE YOU A PASS TO BE A JERK TO OTHERS IN THE NAME OF “I LOVE MYSELF”IT DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE REASON TO BLAME ANYONE OR ANYTHING ON “FOR THE LOVE”UNCONDITIONAL SELF LOVE IS THE FOUNDATIONWITHOUT A SOLID FOUNDATION EVERYTHING ALL FALLS DOWNACCOUNTABILITY LOOKS LIKE OWNING YOUR STUFFIT LOOKS LIKE SHOWING UPIT LOOKS LIKE KEEPING YOUR WORDIT LOOKS LIKE FORGIVENESSIT LOOKS LIKE EMPATHY AND COMPASSIONIT LOOKS LIKE BOUNDARIESACCOUNTABILITY LEADS TO MAKING BETTER CHOICES AND DECISIONSTHERE IS NO SELF LOVE WITHOUT ACCOUNTABILITY AND WITHOUT ACCOUNTABILITY HOPE IS LOSTHERE’S THE THING, WE GET TO THE POINT OF UNCONDITIONAL SELF LOVE AND BEYOND BY HOLDING OURSELVES ACCOUNTABLE, BY HOLDING OTHERS ACCOUNTABLE THE A IN LOVE IS ACCOUNTABILITY