Another giveaway! Two books that might bring healing.

The winners of Saturday’s giveaway are Rebekah H. for the Carol book and Ash A. for the Kitchen Rosary! Congratulations! You know it is you when you get my email!

If you didn’t win, do just buy the Christmas Carol book ASAP, because it will take a wee bit of time to get it to you. The price is right, isn’t it? Good enough to be able to get more than one for the family. Ask Grandma for them! And the proceeds of the Kitchen Rosary benefit the wonderful new foundation of the Notre Dame Priory. Our dear friend Fr. Mark is entering this monastery in January, and I know it will be a very great gift to the whole universal church to have these monks praying and offering the Liturgy! If you love the Kitchen Rosary, please purchase one for someone on your list, to help these awesome young men!}

 

Today I have a giveaway of two important books for finding peace and healing.

I know that we want to give certain kinds of things at Christmastime. Warm, fuzzy, happy things!

So maybe this idea is a little odd. Tell me what you think.

Here’s the thing. Many people in our society today are hurting and unable truly to commit to life together — because they were wounded by their parents’ divorce. Do you know someone like that? Are you someone like that? Recently as I’ve been giving talks in various places, I’ve had conversations with young women who are seeking healing in this area, for themselves or for others, and these conversations have made me think that this book will really help people find peace in their marriage.

My friend Leila Miller collected the words of seventy adult children of divorce. (Yes, we have the same name! But hers is “Layla” and mine is “Lyla” although I answer to Layla too! I didn’t write this book!)

I’m not going to say that her book, Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak, is an easy read. It’s not. But I will say that it will bring healing — the healing of knowing why one’s heart is broken.

I endorsed this book (you will see my blurb on the back cover) because, as I read it, I realized that all these people, collectively, managed to put into words what one person cannot, and what no researcher or observer can articulate. The sheer aggregation of the many, many small statements about the divorce of the respondents’ parents creates an undeniable whole — a sort of big package of truth about what divorce does to the children.

I have always said that you simply can’t ask a child what he thinks about his parents’ divorce. There is too much at stake! For the child to admit that he has received a blow he may not recover from is too frightening. And in almost every case, the child feels he has to protect his parents who are obviously no longer in control of their own lives — if only for his own preservation, for, the child has no autonomy. Without his parents, he will be exposed to nameless danger.

No, you must wait until the child has grown. Then you may — may! — be able to find out what happened to his inner life when his world fell apart.

This is what Leila Miller has done — she has let the now-adult “child” speak.

If you are a counselor or friend; if your parents or your spouse’s parents divorced; if you or a friend are considering divorce — you simply must read this book. It will be hard, but in the end it will bring peaceable fruit. It will help you heal, or help you help others to heal, or stop you (or your friend) in your tracks before you hurt your children.

The other book is for the way forward — to recover peace and to keep it.

Searching for and Maintaining Peace is a little spiritual book that can bring about tremendous peace in your life. Having upset you with Leila’s book, I feel obligated to offer this one as well!

Fr. Jacques Philippe quietly leads you on a gentle journey with his own words and those of the saints, showing that God wants us to be peaceful and gives us the means to obtain peace. He is an immensely deep and peaceful priest with a facility for bringing the spiritual masters right to us in our need.

For many months I simply read this book, a little a day, and then turned it over and started again! Maybe you know someone who could be helped by this book.

For a chance to win both of these books (yes, the winners each get BOTH books!), leave a comment here on the blog.

I will pick three winners and the giveaway will close on Saturday when I will have another giveaway!!

 

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