THE ALLURE OF RIGHTEOUS ANGER

I’m trying to figure out how pissed off to be and am having a difficult time. By nature I am phlegmatic, mildly torpid, and slow to anger. I avoid conflict when possible the way a deer (even one with horns) avoids a wolf (the product, my wife claims, of my growing up with parents who fought daily). I tend to chew on things reflectively rather than feel things intensely.
So what does a person like me do in a culture in which displaying anger is taken as a necessary sign of ...