How To Stand Up For Yourself- What The “Good Daughter” Needs to Know [VIDEO]
Have you ever let someone get away with being rude or unkind to you and… you say nothing?
Is it your mother, mother-in-law or stepmother? Perhaps another woman is always putting you down, giving you back-handed compliments or simply putting you on the spot with her implied criticism.
If someone habitually criticises you, will you stand up for yourself?
Will you say something or swallow this one …yet again?
Afterwards, do you kick yourself for remaining silent?
If you let them “get away with it”, why should anything change?
If this sounds like you – I have help for you here.
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So many daughters in the role of “good daughter” remain silent when a bitchy comment comes their way.
The barb, the swipe, is leveled at them and they freeze.
They are programmed not rock the boat and to smooth things over. Yet, they know deep down they go against themselves by remaining silent.
If this sounds like you, let me break down what is happening.
The problem with not speaking up for yourself is that resentment builds & erodes your self-confidence.
You remain conflicted and have a hard time trusting anybody, much less trusting yourself.
You feel angry yet you worry you will blow up if you speak your mind.
How do you address hostile things that come your way without losing your cool or playing doormat?
Let’s come into the moment – when somebody says something that hurts, you say this-
“You know, that was really hurtful. I’m not sure you meant to hurt me, but that’s how it came across. Could you tell me why you want to say that?”
If you’re met with silence, you might’ve just taken somebody off guard, or conversely they might’ve actually meant the hostility that you felt.
If the comment wasn’t intended as hurtful, then the person has a chance to regroup and say,
“Oh, I’m so sorry. Let’s talk about it”
By bringing it up and hearing a response, you can tell quite a lot.
Here is what you can know for sure-
No matter what the outcome, you’ve stood up for yourself in a way that’s kind and compassionate.
The people in your life will sit up and take notice.
This is good.
You are on your way to becoming real, not merely good.
This is how we rise.
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