Resurrecting Relationships — Why the Power of Love Always Wins

Six years ago, life seemed very uncertain. I was desperately trying to win back the love of a woman I had been through many ups and downs with. I made so many mistakes. I probably didn’t deserve another chance. Boy was I an idiot. We could have gotten married, but I couldn’t commit. Like so many people in-and-out of love, we were struggling mightily on the inside. And it was my fault — I didn’t know what the heck I wanted for my life. And we both suffered.

My work life mirrored my personal life — I lacked positive, transformative relationships that could have elevated my career. I didn’t trust enough people, didn’t trust myself enough and kept struggling with what I wanted. I wasn’t pursuing enough of the passions and loves that were such a big part of my life. I struggled with anxiety and worry. Life was hard.

So I doubled down on faith. I put together a plan to build my life on the values, loves and dreams that had been in my heart. I stopped worrying and started immersing myself FIRST in the belief that things would work out. I dug deep into my prayer life and turned out negative thoughts. When my mind began to wander into the negative, I rejuvenated myself with a dose of enthusiasm and vigor.

Love and Optimism

I write this to you now because I’m an eternal optimist. I’ve seen a lot of people struggle with love and relationships. It’s gone on to affect their every part of their lives. And how could it not? It’s impossible to compartmentalize our personal lives and separate it from our careers, friendships and personal ambitions. We’re creatures of emotions, and nothing cuts deeper than broken hearts and wounded relationships.

Too often, we turn inward and reject outside help. We mourn — which is fine, but it becomes dangerous when we continue to beat ourselves up. Eventually, we hit a decision point — we either turn the page or we decide to let love in and give things another shot. If love teaches one thing, it surely shows us that each day is a new day. Each day is a new opportunity to love with all our hearts.

Bitterness, jealousy, bruised egos and anger are so worthless. They’re real emotions and we’ve all experienced them. But the time spent stewing and burying our hurt in these toxic emotions takes away precious minutes, days — and worst case, years — from a future that can lift us from the precipice of pain and into the delight of joy.

While I hurt and went through a challenging time, I learned a lot. I learned what it means to rebuild myself and to work toward rebuilding my relationships. I learned what it truly means to go “all-in” and bet on myself and someone else. I learned the meaning of true love.

Love Lives Through

Six years later, I can tell you that in order to first love, you have to have faith. You have to trust someone else as much as you trust and believe in yourself. And to succeed in the game of life, you have to trust and rely on others, which in turn will build the trust and belief you have in yourself.

So that young woman I was telling you about? Well, she decided to give me one more chance. That night, we went out and bought the engagement ring I put on her finger a few months later. And one year to the weekend after I purchased that ring, I married her. She’s my wife and today is our five-year anniversary. Never give up on love. There’s always time to resurrect a relationship that’s worth saving.

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