Common traps, worth avoiding

Don't be trapped into accepting shame from someone who is trying to keep you from doing something you have every right to do.

Ignore the mob that would like you to feel badly for not fitting in. Categories are rarely permanent, and most important work is done by people who don't easily fit in.

Realize that no one is more aware of your minor flaws than you are. No one else is noticing the little nick in your tooth or the fact that your shoelaces don't match.

Someone else's fear doesn't have to be your fear unless you want it to be.

Don't use time and money to paper over insecurity.

...When in doubt, do the generous thing. It usually works out the best.