Boundaries, It’s Healthy

Hi guys! 

I know I’ve been popping in and out of my blog and I’ll always apologize for that! I’ve been trying to keep up with everything. 

But today I have a topic that’s been heavy on my noggin lately, boundaries. This is something I am sure we have ALL come to realize is necessary in life. Like us all, setting these boundaries can become difficult and uncomfortable, whether it’s us that has to set them or someone set them on us LOL. 

Setting limits and boundaries is essential to growth in our lives. In the last year, I’ve had so many ups and downs with friendships and close people in my life, that I had to learn where to prioritize everything. At first, I didn’t think it would even need to be necessary within my family circle but even more so with those your closest with! To be able to take care of myself and be strong mentally, physically and emotionally, I had to learn where to step back. 

The past few months, I learned so much about myself. I had to look in my life where I needed to make adjustments and where that extra energy could be used. I had to start looking at those who surrounded me, if they were givers or takers. Now anyone that knows me, knows I have a huge heart and when I give I give in a large way with no expectation of something in return; but I feel there are levels to that. 

If 9/10 times I am giving to someone and they give me 1/10 then something is wrong. My issues is I created a comfort zone for people to get nice and warm. So for them is was a given for me to drop everything I was doing or buy them this or that. I learned that I can’t spoil people and this is STILL something I am working hard on. 

I got lost in giving love and trying to make someone else happy that I wasn’t giving that to myself. I suffered in a big way by doing that and even taking it personal if people were ungrateful for what I would do for them. So this is where boundaries had to come in. I still fall short of this but I can say I think I a lot more before I do things for people now. 

What I keep in my mind is, if someone treats me differently that it isn’t always about me. At times, we take things personal when people become distant or start to take advantage. Instead of being “petty” I’ve learned to just step back and what people put out I give right back to them. 

In doing that, it leaves me more refreshed and not as though I’ve given someone my last drop. And some may have no legitimate reason for leaving your life or acting “brand new”, which you may just need to accept. I stopped questioning why people do things and just go with the flow; saved me less stress in my life. 

These were just few ways I learned to set boundaries in my life. If we don’t take care of ourselves or allow people to walk with muddy tracks in our lives, then we are in trouble. It’s always better late than never but it’s attainable ! 

I’d love to hear anyone’s thoughts on this! Have a Happy Sunday