A Fun Way to Get Up Close and Personal!

Is there a way to make getting “up close and personal” with your lady parts more attractive to your husband–and less intimidating for you?

I hold these truths to be self-evident:

We all want great sex.
For most women, intercourse alone does not provide enough pleasure for orgasm. Therefore, manual and/or oral stimulation is a big necessity!
Many women (and many men) are hesitant about oral sex on the woman because of the smell.

Therefore, we have a bit of a problem, don’t we?

All through the month of July we’ve been doing the Sizzling Summer Sex Series, where we talk about how to make sex more fun and intimate in your marriage. This week we’ve been looking at naturally caring for our bodies. Yesterday I was talking about how we’re not supposed to smell like flowers. Your vagina isn’t supposed to smell like soap.

After all, think about it: your vagina is internal, and it’s constantly a little bit moist. That means that it will have a smell, no matter what you do. But that smell isn’t necessarily bad.

Your husband’s genitals, on the other hand, are on the outside. They’re not always moist. And so if he’s freshly washed, the scent and taste can be rather neutral. That means that oral sex on him in many ways seems easier and, in some ways, not as personal. I mean, his “man parts” are out there on display all the time. They’re not hidden. But when it comes to our “parts”, often we’re not even sure entirely what’s down there, since we can’t even see it without a mirror.

So oral sex on you is more personal, more private, and thus more vulnerable.

And it’s also a little, well, smellier.

What, then, do you do?

I’m so thrilled that Femallay contacted me and asked to be a sponsor of this blog (and thank you so much for all you do to help me pay for my assistants, Femallay!). And when I found out what they offer, I was even more thrilled, because this is stuff I can totally get behind.

I already told you about the natural, reusable menstrual products that Femallay offers–sponges and cups and reusable pads. Because some of what causes major smells in your vagina is your vagina overreacting to scented products, using reusable products instead of disposable ones can stop that right away, too.

But then they also have flavored vagina suppositories–which inserted with an applicator (it seriously is easy peasy, easier than a tampon), and these melt fast and provide you with both lubrication and flavour. You can go the fun romantic route:

Or you can go more of a fruity route:

They’ve also got watermelon, pink grapefruit, strawberry, vanilla, banana, and so many more! Check them out here.

Here’s why I think flavored vaginal suppositories are such a great idea.

First, it provides easy lubrication, and there are three stages especially in a woman’s life when she really needs that: first, when she’s just married and sex is new; second, after a baby when things are getting back to the way they were; and third, for menopause and beyond when natural lubrication is harder to come by.

And when you keep things well lubricated, too, especially after menopause, you tend to stay healthier down there! And as a bonus, many women find that even if they have plenty of natural moisture “down below,” extra oil-based lubrication and suppositories can help them climax much easier and faster than they could otherwise during both intercourse and manual stimulation, too.

But it isn’t just about lubrication. It’s also about confidence! One woman wrote this comment yesterday on my post:

I didn’t smell until after getting married/started having sex. On our honeymoon, I was like, “I’ve never smelled like this before!” and my hubby said, “You’ve never been with a guy before!” [image error]